You’re Still at Home, But You’re Not a Kid Anymore
You’re old enough to know what you want and mature enough to take care of yourself. But you're still living with your parents, and it’s starting to weigh on you. You feel ready to grow, set your own routines, and make your own decisions, but the environment you're in doesn’t always support that.
Maybe you're navigating guilt about wanting more space. Maybe your culture says family comes first, even when your mental health is suffering. Or maybe your parents simply don’t understand your needs, boundaries, or identity.
Why Living at Home Feels So Hard Right Now
The pressure to stay “grateful”
You know you’re lucky to have a roof over your head, but that doesn’t mean it’s working for you emotionally.
Lack of privacy and space
Even small things like needing alone time, setting a schedule, or deciding how you spend your money can turn into conflict.
Cultural or generational disconnect
You might be the first in your family to prioritize mental health. You’re trying to grow into who you are while being surrounded by people who don’t fully get it.
Delayed freedom and independence
You feel behind, unsure of your next step, or frustrated that you still need to explain or justify your choices.
Therapy Can Help You Find Space to Be Yourself
Living at home doesn’t mean you have to stay emotionally stuck. Therapy can help you:
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Sort through guilt, pressure, and frustration
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Set internal and external boundaries that feel realistic
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Cope with tension while still honoring your values
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Create a sense of emotional independence even if you’re physically under the same roof
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Build a plan for what comes next, at your pace
Who This Is For
This work is especially helpful for:
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First-gen or BIPOC young adults navigating cultural pressure
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Adults in their 20s or 30s living at home due to school, finances, or family expectations
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Clients who feel stuck in childhood roles or routines
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People exploring what independence means on their own terms
Virtual Therapy for Living at Home Challenges in NYC and Across New York
All sessions are held online for clients located anywhere in New York State, including NYC, Westchester, Upstate, Long Island, and surrounding areas. You don’t have to move out to get support. Therapy can be a space where you reclaim your autonomy, process what’s difficult, and create space for your growth.
FAQs About Therapy While Living at Home
Is it normal to still live with my parents in my 20s or 30s?
Yes. Financial realities, cultural norms, and personal choice all factor in. Living at home doesn’t mean you’re behind. But if it’s starting to impact your mental health or relationships, therapy can help.
Can therapy help me set better boundaries with my parents?
Absolutely. We’ll explore what boundaries are realistic and supportive, even if your parents resist them. It’s not about cutting anyone off. It’s about protecting your energy and growth.
What if I feel guilty about wanting space or moving out?
That guilt is real, especially if your family has sacrificed for you or values closeness. Therapy can help you unpack that without shaming yourself. Wanting space doesn’t make you ungrateful.
What if I don’t know if I’m ready to move out?
You don’t have to decide everything right away. Therapy gives you space to process what’s working, what isn’t, and how to make changes step by step.
Do you understand cultural and generational tension?
Yes. I’ve worked with many clients navigating these dynamics, especially first-gen clients balancing respect for family with their own mental health needs. We can talk about what makes this uniquely hard and how to move forward in a way that feels true to you.
I also offer family support sessions when it feels helpful to have everyone on the same page or explore communication together.
What if there’s a history of trauma or emotional abuse in my family?
You’re not alone. Many clients live with parents or relatives who have hurt them in the past, whether through emotional neglect, verbal abuse, or unhealthy dynamics that still affect them today. Therapy can help you make sense of that impact, even if you’re still living in the same space. We’ll explore how to protect your mental and emotional well-being while honoring what you’ve been through. Safety, clarity, and self-trust are always the priority.
If you’re experiencing a crisis or need immediate support, please call 988 or visit your nearest emergency room. Therapy is a space to build longer-term tools and support.
You Deserve to Grow, Even If You’re Still at Home
Your need for space, clarity, and self-trust is valid. Therapy can support you as you build independence in a way that makes sense for your life, values, and future.