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When a breakup feels bigger than the relationship itself
A breakup can completely throw you off, even when you were the one who ended it or knew it was coming. You might feel stuck thinking about the relationship, emotionally raw one minute and shut down the next, or frustrated with yourself for not being “over it” yet.
For many people, a breakup brings up more than just missing the person. It can stir up old fears, old patterns, and a familiar feeling of losing yourself in relationships. You might keep asking yourself why this hurts so much, why it feels familiar, or why the same dynamic keeps showing up again and again.
If you're here, you may not be looking for advice on how to move on. You may want to understand why this hit you the way it did, why it feels so familiar, and how to stop repeating the same relationship patterns in the future.
Together, we'll work to process the breakup, understand your attachment patterns, and build relationships that feel more secure, connected, and aligned with who you are.
Why This Breakup Hits So Hard
Sometimes a breakup feels overwhelming in a way that doesn't seem to match the length or seriousness of the relationship. That can leave you wondering, "Why am I taking this so hard?"
You might notice things like:
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Feeling panicky when someone becomes distant
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Wanting closeness while also wanting to pull away
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Replaying conversations or thinking about the relationship constantly
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Feeling rejected, abandoned, or easily triggered
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Losing your sense of self in relationships
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Repeating the same relationship patterns despite your best intentions
These reactions often reflect relationship and attachment patterns that developed long before this breakup. Understanding where they come from is an important first step toward changing them.
Understanding relationship and attachment patterns
Attachment patterns shape how you experience closeness, distance, conflict, and loss. They often become most noticeable after a breakup, when emotions feel stronger and familiar relationship dynamics resurface.
You might notice your thoughts looping, find yourself looking for reassurance, or feel the urge to pull away even when you want closeness. You may find yourself drawn to the same types of relationships, even when you already know how they tend to end.
You may recognize the pattern while still feeling stuck inside it.
Together, we'll look at how your attachment patterns show up in your everyday life, how you experience closeness, respond to distance, and how your nervous system reacts during emotional stress in relationships.
We'll also explore how earlier relationships and life experiences shaped what feels familiar today, why certain relationship dynamics carry so much emotional weight, and why those patterns continue showing up in your relationships.
Over time, those reactions become less intense, your relationships feel less consuming, and you're able to build connections that feel more secure, and more aligned with who you are.
Step Into Healing
Moving forward after a breakup with support
A breakup can leave you feeling emotionally overwhelmed, shut down, or stuck replaying the same thoughts and conversations. You may know what you want to do differently in future relationships, yet still feel pulled back into familiar patterns when emotions run high.
Together, we'll focus on processing what the breakup brought to the surface, not just talking about it. Using EMDR, somatic therapy, art therapy, and other evidence-based approaches, we'll help your mind and body work through the parts of the experience that still feel emotionally charged, unresolved, or difficult to let go.
Together, we'll work on:
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Helping your nervous system settle after the breakup
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Understanding your relationship and attachment patterns
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Reducing emotional reactivity around closeness, distance, and loss
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Strengthening your sense of self in relationships
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Building healthier boundaries and more secure relationships
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Moving forward without repeating the same patterns
You don't need to come in with all the answers. We'll start with what's showing up for you now and move at a pace that feels manageable, intentional, and focused on lasting change.
Thoughtful support that doesn’t avoid the hard parts
Hi! I'm Attiya Awadallah, LCAT, ATR-BC. I work with adults who are ready to take an honest look at themselves and want someone who is clear, grounded, and direct. Breakups often bring long-standing fears, attachment patterns, and relationship dynamics to the surface, especially the ones that continue to repeat from one relationship to the next. Together, we'll slow things down, understand what's really happening beneath the surface, and work toward lasting change rather than repeating the same patterns.
I bring over 10 years of experience treating trauma, anxiety, relationship concerns, and complex emotional patterns, along with advanced training in EMDR, art therapy, and body-aware approaches. My goal is to help you move beyond simply talking about what happened and begin understanding how those experiences continue to shape your relationships, emotions, and decisions today.
People often choose to work with me because they're looking for:
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Honest, compassionate feedback
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A therapist who notices patterns they haven't been able to see on their own
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Practical guidance alongside deeper emotional work
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An approach that goes beyond traditional talk therapy
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Sessions that feel focused, collaborative, and productive
Healing after a breakup isn't only about getting over one relationship. It's also an opportunity to better understand yourself, strengthen future relationships, and break patterns that no longer serve you.
Ready to move forward
You’re ready to stop repeating relationship cycles that keep leaving you hurt. You want to understand how you attach in relationships, develop healthier ways of connecting, and move forward with more clarity. If that’s where you are, the next step is a consultation to discuss working together.